2 Days…or in fact, 1 Day

Go!!!

And no go. No go for ages. We are supposed to be up to get to the Flower market to buy flowers, but nothing happens until I use my OUTSIDE voice.  While Himself is in the shower I log into his twitter but he doesn’t notice. Then we are on the road, but really we are running late before we even leave the house.

Yes, you!! 

The flowers are glorious, all one could hope for. I pick up an extra bouquet of pink roses that I can’t resist. 

Just like these! 

We visit our incredibly patient and kind friend who is taking care of the flowers and then we are on the road! 

Step on it!!! 

Down in Kilkenny there is another list to deal with. Orange Juice for the kids, nail varnish remover, tights, cheques from the Credit Union. Himself is just as busy; Suits to collect, wine to deliver, relatives to collect….

Lots to do!! 

Soon it id done. Home. Dinner. Words going from me. But before I sign off for today, I did get a bloody amazing present from my Dad and my Mum. So if he is reading this, thank you very much. 

Are...are you serious? 

And finally, it seems that I have counted wrong. I don’t have one day left to the Wedding, as it is tomorrow. So stand by, I may be a moment before my next blog post.

Be back soon! 

3 Days

Tuesday! I am up but strangely enough cannot make myself go for a jog. I go through my stretches and clean the place up a bit, then hit the shower and make myself presentable. Work! A godsend in the midst of all the madness. It is quiet, it is calm, it is serene. 

That is the sound of my nerves untangling.... 

I actually have a lot to do, I have to arrange for lots to happen before I can take off for my honeymoon. So there are orders to be put in, calls to be made, emails to be sent….Before you know it, the day has flown by.

Sorry can't stop!! 

I have an appointment in the evening that is over by about eight, then Himself picks me up.

My knight in shining armour. God I love having the car back.  

We get the car washed, go home and pack, and get ready for the next day.  

On your marks....get set... 

4 Days

Monday. I’m up at 7 and showered and dressed and ready to go. I’ve, again, a lot to do and little time. I just need to check one small thing on the computer and away we go. However, this was before I had tried out my Dad’s computer. It goes sixty miles a week.

Bloody Computer.... 

Seriously, I’m there an hour waiting for one damn browser to get started. Once it does though, we’re off. I take my little flower girl (Best girl ever) and we go and deliver the vows to the Registrar. The walk takes forever though.

Yes, that long. 

So of course we stop for cake.

Heh heh heh.... 

Then I’m over to the Credit Union; money in, cheques out. Cheques for the cake, for the DJ and for the Castle. And from there, Boots for the perfect nail varnish. All done by 1pm.

 

Then I take the youngsters to Toy Story 3. Himself was supposed to make it, but only woke up late and there was moirder amongst the kids…

 

I cried at Toy Story, it was fantastic, and I know I’m the last person to say that.  Still, it was wonderful, and my Flower Girl and I agree we have to get the DVD when it comes out.  Then my sister rang to ask what formal dinner would be held on Wednesday night, the eve of the wedding?

Go! Away! And! Shite! 

Then home, to meet with the inlaws who are in town for the day. After all this I’m exhausted, and I sit in the chair feeling low. I have to go back up to Dublin tonight to do my last day at work, and I feel hopeless. Only sitting there, watching the Simpsons (Lisa: "A challenge I could do!") did I realise how dark my thoughts were. I seemed to think because I wasn’t sitting in a meadow blissful and mindlessly serene that I was somehow failing. I went upstairs and sat with my eldest sis and my Mum for a while, and patted myself on the back. I was doing a brilliant job in some very difficult circumstances, and was frankly a miracle worker, truth be told. So there. I went back up to Dublin determined to think kindly of myself. 

Damn right.  

5 Days

Himself was home at all hours yesterday, so I get up and let him sleep. I iron tonnes (when does this nonsense ever end?).

Saves me doing it when I'm back.  

I make my way down via bus. I know it is my last trip down in the bus for a while, so I take a few photos of the landscape. I think, somehow, I’m going to miss it.

 

The house is quiet, everyone is out bar Dad, who is minding Mum. I spend hours chatting away to her. But there is no point denying it, she looks worse. She can’t speak, hold her head or look at you with any real understanding in her eyes. Last week she could. She could follow some of the things I said. My sister had given dire warnings that Mum would be lost to us by now. However, there had been a solidness to Mum, a healthiness in her limbs that meant I couldn’t see the decrease in her going that fast.

Now, however, I can see it. She seems so much smaller in terms of what she was even a few weeks ago. And she’s not clear on things anymore, not the way she was. 

:( 

Folks return, the house gets busy again. I eat dinner with everyone and feel better. 

My sister is on the phone. She wants to know what I’m doing for the guests the day after the wedding. The answer is not a bloody thing.

I go and get some sleep.  

6 Days

Up and out. I’ve a lot to do and not much time to do it. I don’t go for my run because of giving blood yesterday, I want to rest. I head into Clerys on O’Connell Street.

This one.  

I get two presents, one for my Maid of Honour and one for my Flower Girl (the best little girl ever). Then I am upstairs for a quick trim on my hair. I had to laugh when they asked was I going anywhere special.

Conditioner? 

Then after that, I get my eye lashes tinted and my eyebrows shaped and dyed. Hurts like hell, and it shouldn’t, but what can you do?

Ow ow, ow ow ow.  

Then I met himself for a quick bite, courtesy of the Food Market at the O2. Thank God for Pizza, that’s all I can say. 

One with everything, please. 

At home, there is pizza, there is conversation, there is frank amazement ("What did you do to your face?!") before I head out to a friend’s house, and Himself heads out to his stag.

No I don't know either.  

My friend’s sister is a Beauty Therapist, so she’s giving us all facials. I’m there until Six pm, and I could have stayed for dinner, but I found I wanted to go home. I can get like that sometime, my jar of social skills evaporates if I leave it open too long.

 Yup, that's about it.

Home. Empty, while Himself is out. I call it to a halt at about ten pm, too tired for any more. 

7 Days

I get up and have a large breakfast because I have to give blood later. I make sure to get some emails sent and then head out. I’m supposed to go with Himself but he’s a bit indisposed, so I make the journey myself. When I get to D’Olier Street, I find the place busy; A lot of people took the 9.30am timeslot and I have to wait for a few minutes.

D'Olier Street 

When you give blood, the first thing you have to do is to fill out a form confirming your suitability. Most of it is innocent enough: No, I haven’t been to Africa (fear of West Nile Disease) and I haven’t had dental surgery in the US (untested blood products). One thing that is suspect is that if you are a gay male, no blood donations from you (instead of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, we have Just Don’t Even Ask). I fill in the form and then they test your blood. This means taking a drop and testing the iron - anything under 11 something can’t be used. I come in at a healthy 12.2 and off we go.

Iron Test 

You’re called out, and made to sit on something like this;

Not a problem. 

They wipe your arm down with alcohol and insert the needle. All of them are old hands so you almost never get a problem. I tell the nice lady I’m getting married Thursday and she promises to make a tiny mark. It takes no more than ten minutes, and then you go up for free juice and a bar. I stayed as long as I could, I’ve had problems when I rushed out, and then headed to work.

Driver, to my work place, stat! 

On the bus, I felt fine, no problems. Same with when I got there, I gave myself a tea with brown sugar and got my emails done, desk cleared, voicemails returned. I decided at 1.30 to grab some lunch, and got stopped on the way by someone asking me questions about something that wasn’t my job. I could feel my irritation rise but managed to control myself. Finally free, I went into the cafe to buy a sandwich when it hit me.

One Hang Sandwich please. 

Suddenly I missed my Mum so much. All the noise and the clatter seemed so hard and mean and I just wanted to be alone more than anything. A voice yelled in my ear. "Hey you, are you getting married?" The lady who runs the place was standing beside me, grinning. I found myself smiling broadly, all social and friendly and lying through my teeth. We chatted away about nothing and she wouldn’t let me pay for lunch. I left, feeling disconnected from everything. This is how the tiredness shows itself, I don’t get sleepy, I get overwhelmed.

Back at my desk, it was a relief to have mere pieces of paper to deal with. I ran through them all, got to five pm, and found I didn’t want to do anything more. I was supposed to go into town but I just wanted to go home, wanted to hide. I caught a bus home. I cleaned the place but it didn’t really help. And now I’m going to bed.  

.... 

8 days

I’m up! Stop, alarm clock, I’ll be good! Hot water, please, for the love of God, let there be hot water. Is there?

Lovely, lovely hot water. 

There is! Thanks to ALL my Gods. 

The H2O shall be chaud. 

Then we get a call. Our rather magnificent friend is in Smithfield Flower market, she’s seen some possibilities, and she is coming over. Now.  Right now. I quickly stuff things away and tidy the place the hell up, all the while throwing Himself into the shower. Now. NOW!

Nothing to see here.... 

She arrives, and like the beauty she is, she’s got the whole thing arranged and sorted in no time. The flat is full of flowers, we’re blessed. And she’s saved us about five hundred Euro with this, I’m not kidding. (Yes, five hundred, flowers are stupid money.) 

Expensive little buggers, ain't they?

So I finally get myself together, head out the door and get to work. Once there, I’m able to call folks to remind them, like the Registrar, the DJ and the Cake Lady, and all is order. I’m ringing because when we had the rehearsal, the Registrar forgot/didn’t schedule it and I got panicky. But everyone is on board, all of them seem to be on the same page. Especially the Cake Lady, how cool is that job? I would get nothing done. 

Seriously. Not a thing. 

Then it is me who gets a phone call, a missed call on my phone. It’s the Blood Board, and they need me to donate blood. I give them a call and ask why me? My blood type is bog standard. The pleasant sounding woman on the other end explains that a component of my blood (not platelets, something else) is a match for a patient who is about to undergo surgery on Saturday, along with twelve other people. Can I come in at 9.30am to give a donation. As I listen, she tells me who the patient is. It’s a child, a baby, undergoing surgery on Saturday morning in Crumlin.

I tell her I’ll be there on the dot. 

Whoever is the parent out there, thinking of you.

God Bless. 

9 Days

I’m up at six and running, and loving it; it has been a few days since I ran and the five miler was a treat. I get home, get ready for my shower and what do I find?

 

Cold water. What is my reaction? Don’t panic, do your cool down exercises and put the boost on. I do this, I wait an hour, and then I get in again. What do I find? Freezing cold water. What is my reaction now? This:

 

Don’t even think of it. I get the plumber, who tells me to call the electrician. The electrician comes out, puts a patch on it and tells me it will need to be fixed, drained, sectioned, facelifted and converted to a new religion, all for a low, low price of huge money. What can ya do? Have a goddamn shower and get to work late, that’s what you do.

After work I met up with some rather lovely colleagues to chat and enjoy ourselves, but I think I might be a bit talked out, dear Reader. I’m not sure I really relaxed the whole time. Got home, got some food, got to bed.

10 Days

I have a strange dream about Japanese camps; something involving a drill sergeant yelling at me, and then the alarm goes and I’m up. Going back to work seems almost a relief, if I’m honest, there is very little family magic to worry about there. 

In which the author contemplates family relations... 

On the bus this morning the radio played Sweetest Thing by U2. It reminded me of the 1990s, of that boy from Navan I dated, of the sheer mess of his car (which I hated). My mother described him as ‘very relaxed’, and with that, killed it. I didn’t mind, I only think I was aware of him when he was gone, I was that absorbed.  

You're gorgeous, you are.... 

Work! Damn quiet. The phone rings four times and all is sleepy. I manage to read Book I of Paradise Lost while I’m in there. Milton is a new voice for my brain. He will throw the imagery at a person so quickly the modern inattentive mind will miss it. 

Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! 

I was supposed to meet someone at 6.30pm, and found that they were unable to meet up. I wish they had told me, frankly; I’d cancelled and pushed back other plans to accommodate them and could have done with a bit more notice.  This week is mad enough without others forgetting to let me know….Am I becoming a Bridezilla? Hell….

Excuse me, but what the hell is this?? 

Then on to the highlight of my day, which was dinner with Himself and our friend 007. Bit of an action hero is our friend, and the evening flew by. He is a great person, and the pair of us laughed ourselves silly in his company. Just what the doctor ordered. Plus, the presents were just perfect.

The Larder, naturally... 

And so to bed.  

11 Days

Will the rain ever stop? It wakes me at six with the sound on the roof. I turn my phone off, go back to sleep.

Up at seven am, along with the rest of the house. I shower, and dress, and get moving. I and my flower girl go into town and buy our shoes for the day. Something like this;

Not quite so flowery, but pretty close. 

She’s as bad a shopper as I am, in that if it is not books, she’s not really up for it. We get it all done in half an hour, and walk home, chatting all the way. Moving into the grandparents’ home, seeing her Mum devoted to someone else, and losing her own space, well, it’s had an effect. And puberty is hitting her fast. She’s growing so quickly, and with so little understanding of what is happening to her, that it seems frankly reckless to let her walk around in ignorance. But one other thing I have to remember is that this is not my kid. I’m under the same roof as her at weekends, but I’m still not in a position to get involved. She absorbs everything I say to her and reflects it back to me: I’ve learnt never to criticise my body in front of her, as she will immediately say the same thing about her own looks. 

Right so, home, lunch, and in the afternoon our hardworking Best Man shows up from Dublin. We go to the Castle for our rehearsal and discover that the Registrar got the dates wrong and didn’t show up. How very comforting.

No pressure!! 

Then it is a rushed bite to eat, and then the bus, where we drool on each other in our exhaustion….

Not us, but close. 

Good to be home.